The Rating Game

sex and the citySo this is a re-post of a blog that I wrote on  I got quite a few interesting comments on this topic.  So while lounging around on a lazy Sunday morning, I came upon a Sex and the City marathon on TV.  What better way to spend a Sunday morning than in my pajamas with a cup of coffee and back to back episodes of one of the best shows ever (just my opinion).  So Carrie (played by Sarah Jessica Parker) and Samantha (played by Kim Cattrall), were walking in the city and talking about their friend, Charlotte, who recently had a guy fall asleep on her during sex.  Samantha said that this obviously means that Charlotte was bad in bed. Carrie then ponders to herself, “how DO we know whether or not we are good in bed?”.  This got me thinking the same thing.  I think that if someone falls asleep on us during the act, it is safe to say that they were not amused.  But other than something as obvious as that, how do we really know.  Are we being rated on our performance during the act?  Are we rating our partner in our mind during sex?  I’m not going to lie, there have been times when I was not into it or just didn’t feel that chemistry and in my mind I just wanted it to be over with.  There have been times I did not enjoy it but gave it another shot hoping it would get better the second time. I thin it’s safe to say that plenty of women have “faked it” during sex and the guy walks away thinking he did something spectacular.  But how do women know if a guy genuinely enjoyed himself?  Do guys fake their way through sex as well?  Also, is there a way to tell if someone is good in bed before you sleep with them?  Samantha on Sex and the City said she never met a man that was bad in bed but good in life.  I have a little theory myself that always seems to prove true.  I have found that they way a guy dances is a direct reflection of how he performs in bed.  If he has rhythm on the floor, he has rhythm in bed as well (at least in my experience).  So ladies, do you have a go to method to determine if a guy will be able to please you in bed?  Any sure fire ways to tell if your guy enjoyed your rendezvous?