Lemonade: A Visual Album by Beyoncé 

 

  What’s worse…..looking jealous or looking crazy? 

  I ain’t thinkin bout you……middle fingers up. Wave it in his face, tell him boy bye.

  From Monday to Friday she has tears in her eyes. From Friday to Sunday she has stars in her eyes 
  
  
My daddy warned me about men like you. He said baby girl he’s playin you.

   
  Why do you deny yourself heaven? Why do you think you are undeserving?

  Forgiveness: If we’re gonna heal, let it be glorious. 

“And I know I promised I wouldn’t stay, every promise don’t work out that way.” 

  
Imma keep running cause a winner don’t quit on themselves.

Nothing REAL can be threatened.

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That’s Creepy

  
A group of college students conducted a survey to find out what people consider “creepy”. Participants were given a wide range of attributes and told to pick which they considered to be “creepy” and in what order. 

Results show that what people consider most to make someone appear “creepy” are:

-Long fingers

-Greasy hair

-Laughing at inappropriate times

-Pasty skin

-Undereye bags

-Standing too close

If I had to add something to this list that I consider creepy, it would be someone who stares and someone smirking for no reason. 

Dating Tips 101: Several steps to Take to Make Sure It’s Real

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There are never any guarantees when it comes to relationships and love.  But there are certainly some steps that you can take to make the odds work out a little more in your favor.  If you are looking for more than a hook up and want someone who will respect you, there are certain things that you shouldn’t do.  Of course, there are exceptions to every rule and what works for some might now work for others.  But in my experience, if you want to ensure that he is spending time with you out of genuine interest and a desire to get to know more about you, you should not:

GO TO HIS HOUSE/HAVE SEX WITHIN THE FIRST FEW DATES:  I’m not going to give a set amount of time that you should wait before having sex, but if it is the beginning of the relationship, having sex can send out the message that you just want to have fun.  He may very well still try to pursue you after that, but what if he doesn’t?  Often times, men stop putting in as much effort after they get the goods.  There is no longer anything for them to work for.  Your body is the golden ticket and gives the man something to work towards, an incentive.  Don’t let him have dessert before the main course. If you hold out and sex was all he wanted, he will surely fade away.  This can hurt, but at least you still have your dignity.

COME OUT OF POCKET:  The same idea lies here as with the first rule.  A man who isn’t looking for anything serious is not going to continue taking you out and paying for your dates.  Especially if you are not having sex yet.  When you allow a man to pay, you get a pretty good sense of how serious he takes you and what his true intentions are.  This has nothing to do with being a gold digger or getting a “free meal”.  As women, we have to keep our guards up and it is so hard to tell when a man wants to be with you or when he just wants a hook up.  This is one of the most surefire ways to see where his head is.  If he genuinely likes you, treating you to dinner or any other date you go on will not be an issue to him.  I have had men tell me that a woman should never come out of pocket in the beginning because this sets the tone for the rest of the relationship.  Men are creatures of habit, if you start paying in the beginning it will most likely be expected every time. This will also make him think that you have lower standards as far as what you expect from him. Once a relationship has been established, there is nothing wrong with taking turns and treating your man once in a while, but that is once you are secure and know where you stand. I have had guys ask me out on a date and then ask if I can pay for myself.  When I said no, they cancelled on me.  It sucks but at least now I know where his mind was.

DISCLOSE TOO MUCH INFORMATION:  It’s not a good idea to give too much information in the beginning  about all the men that have hurt you or used you.  Telling a guy that hasn’t yet gotten to really know you that all of your exes cheated on you or used you will certainly raise a red flag.  He might wonder why you are always getting cheated on or think you are a common factor each time.  He might wonder why it was so easy to take advantage of you.  Allow him to get to know the real you first and then you can disclose past experiences little by little and vice versa.  Make sure he opens up to you as well.  Don’t allow yourself to be vulnerable too early on.

World Autism Conference at the United Nations

  
This morning was the World Autism Conference at the United Nations building. At the event were individuals with Autism, families of individuals with Autism and professionals that work with individuals with Autism and other Developmental Disabilities. April 2nd is World Autism Awareness Day. 

  
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and Autism are names for a group of complex disorders in the brain. Characteristics include difficulty and anxiety around social interactions, delayed verbal and non-verbal communication, hypersensitivity to external stimuli and repetitive behaviors. ASD is sometimes associated with intellectual disability and attention/health issues such as GI problems. Obvious signs of Autism usually are evident at 2/3 years of age. Autism is 4-5 times more likely in boys.

Many people on the Autism Spectrum perform exceptionally in music and academic skills. According to AutismSpeaks.Org, 40% have average to above average intellectual abilities. 

One speaker, Alex Plank, is the founder of WrongPlanet.org. Alex is on the Autism Spectrum and founded this website to give people with Autism an opportunity to interact and socialize on the web with other people on the Spectrum. Friendships and relationships have formed as a result of this interactive platform, something that might not have happened otherwise. Many people with Autism have anxiety around socializing, interacting and going out. The Internet allows them to talk to people without having to make eye contact or feel the pressure of responding immediately in a conversation. 

Other speakers from around the world, including Bangladesh and Kenya, spoke about the lack of awareness on a ground level as well as on a political/governmental level. In many places around the world, where Autism and other disabilities are things that people are not educated about, the mindset is that these people born with the condition are “defective” or “evil”. Dr. John Maina, Director of Program Research, Evaluation and Development at Boston Higashi School, and also a parent of a child with Autism, said that in his homeland in Kenya, people with Autism are tied to trees because it is unknown what else to do. 

There is a major lack of knowledge and awareness on all levels of the abilities and potential of people with Autism. Hewlett Packard has teamed with SAP to allow people with Autism the opportunity to work for them, as they recognized the positive effects of doing so and the great contributions that people with Autism have made to their company. SAP  has changed the way they conduct interviews, as face to face interviews can be very challenging for someone with Autism. Instead, they provide trainings and workshops that allow people with Autism to display their talent. Graphic design, IT and Customer Service are some of the jobs currently offered through this program. 

One of the closing speakers, Ari Ne’eman, an individual with Autism and also the founder of the Autism Self Advocacy Network, informed viewers that it is preferred to receive a round of “flappause” as opposed to “applause”. “Flappause” is a waving of the hand and this gesture was borrowed by people with Autism from the deaf community, as it is preferred over the loud noise of clapping.