Underneath It All

There’s times where I want something more

Someone more like me

There’s times when this dress rehearsal

Seems incomplete

But, you see the colors in me like no one else

And behind your dark glasses you’re… 

You’re something else

You’re really lovely

Underneath it all

You want to love me

Underneath it all

I’m really lucky

Underneath it all

You’re really lovely 

You know some real bad tricks
And you need some discipline

But, lately you’ve been trying real hard

And giving me your best

And, you give me the most gorgeous sleep

That I’ve ever had

And when it’s really bad

I guess it’s not that bad

So many moons that we have seen
Stumbling back next to me

I’ve seen right through and underneath

And you make me better

I’ve seen right through and underneath

And you make me better

Better… better…

You are my real Prince Charmin’

Like the heat from the fire

You were always burnin’

And each time you’re around

My body keeps stalin’

For your touch

Your kisses and your sweet romancin’

There’s an underside to you

That so many adore

Aside from your temper

Everything else secure

You’re good for me, baby

Oh that, I’m sure

Over and over again

I want more

You’ve used up all your coupons

And all you’ve got left is me

And somehow I’m full of forgiveness

I guess it’s meant to be

You’re really lovely
Underneath it all

You want to love me

Underneath it all

I’m really lovely

Underneath it all

And you’re really lovely

Gwen Stefani/Eve concert

Thursday night I had a blast watching Gwen Stefani and Eve perform at the Nikon Theater at Jones Beach. Eve headlined and joined Gwen onstage later for their two hit songs, “Blow Ya Mind” and “Rich Girl”.

So Gwen put on an amazing show.  She performed her songs that she’s recorded as a solo artist but also a couple of songs from her No Doubt days. Gwen looks amazing and doesn’t appear to have aged at all! She was also extremely friendly towards her fans, she went out into the crowd a couple of times and brought a girl on stage who was holding a sign asking Gwen to take a selfie with her. Gwen took a selfie with the girl when she brought her up. At one point she dedicated a song to a girl in the audience and also made sure to say it was also dedicated to Blake 😍.

Wind It Up was one of my favorite parts of the show!

Autistic caregiver shot by police

A behavioral therapist in Miami who worked with an autistic patient in an assisted living facility was shot by police on Monday.

The autistic individual left the facility and was seen wandering around in the street. Police received a call that an armed man was walking around threatening suicide. The therapist followed the individual to try to get him back to his home. When police arrived they had their weapons drawn, so the therapist laid on his back on the floor with his hands up in the air to show that he was unarmed and not a threat. He yelled out to the officers that he was a therapist, that the young man had a disability and was not holding a gun, but a toy truck. 

While laying on the floor, with his hands still in the air, the therapist was shot in the leg. Even after being shot he still kept his hands raised and said that he knew he had been shot. The officers then rolled him on to his stomach and handcuffed him. He asked the officer why he shot him and he said the officer responded, “I don’t know”. 

I would love to see how this story ends.

Baby girl you’re a star.

Baby girl you’re a star, don’t let him tell you you’re not.

The right person will bring out the best in you, not the stress in you. What does that mean? That means that with the right person, you will flourish. You will smile. You will be happy. You will glow. You will be secure and confident in yourself and in your relationship. You will not do things that are out of character. I know when I am not with the right person because I do things that are not typical of me. My inner balance is completely off. 

There is someone who was in my life for the past year and I was stressed 90% of our relationship. Constant worrying and insecurity. It was noticeable to everyone around me, including family, friends and co-workers. I am naturally a social, friendly and fun person to be around. But this person brought out anxiety, fear and insecurity. When he is not around, I am good. Easy going. Calm. But as soon as I am with him, everything gets disrupted. This person is surrounded by drama and he brings that into all of his relationships. I don’t think he can function without it and it took a major toll on my mental well being. 

I then met someone who was the complete opposite of his personality and I noticed an immediate change in my disposition. My friends and family all told me that I am “normal” again. It felt so good to not be constantly worried about what was going to happen. To not question my relationship all of the time. To have someone consistent. It didn’t work out in the end but I learned from that relationship what I do want. I learned that a relationship can exist without drama. And it feels good. 

Having drama in a relationship is like a drug. It is actually addicting and very toxic. Drama creates an adrenaline like feeling, a high and then when you make up, its like coming down from the high. More drama is needed to experience that high feeling again. You end up in an endless cycle of make ups and break ups. 

The older I get, the more I see how unhealthy that cycle is and the more I know that I do not ever want another relationship like that again. I have learned when to let go and when to move on. 

Is this official?

How do you know when your relationship has went from “dating” to “official”? Does it have to be verbally stated in order to be official? I think there are certain things that have to take place in order for me to consider it official. If you have told me that we are together but other key events haven’t taken place, then it still isn’t real to me. A title doesn’t mean anything without the actions to support it. 

For me, one of the key aspects to being official is when you have met the other person’s family/friends and vice versa. If I have not met the key people in your life, how serious are you about me? If our world and your family world is separate, then I wonder about my position in your life. When someone is truly serious and wants to be with you, they will introduce you to the people who’s opinion matters to them the most. This includes both close friends and family, especially their parents. If we have been going strong for a while and I still haven’t been introduced to your parents and siblings, I really question your commitment to me.  Do you invite me to family parties? Am I ever invited to hang out with your friends? Spending time apart and having your own life is important, but if I am never incorporated into your social life, then what message does that send to me?

Another key aspect to making it official to me is being public. I’m not saying you have to post pictures of us on social media every day, but if there is not one picture of me or of us together, I start to wonder about your level of commitment to me. Are you keeping us hidden from your social media following because you want to maintain a single image? Are you hoping that you have another option from your list of followers if things don’t work out between us?

Public displays of affection……I’m not a fan of the whole making out in public thing but I do like hand holding or having an arm out around me sometimes. It raises a red flag if you can’t hold my hand in public. 

Another important part of being in a commitment is being there in not only good times, but bad times as well. When we get into an argument, do you reach out and try to fix it or do you disappear? If you run off every time we argue and don’t attempt to find a solution to the problem, that shows me you have poor coping skills and I cannot rely on you.

Spending time is so very important in a relationship, whether in the beginning or later on in the relationship. If you say we are together but do not make effort to see me or spend time with me, then I am better off alone. How can we bond and grow if we barely see each other? 

Communication: if I tell you that something bothers me, will you compromise or will you tell me too bad? If I am asking something reasonable of you, then I would think its not a big deal to find a happy medium. The same applies for me.  If having my exes picture up on my Instagram or Facebook bothers you, I will take it down with no hesitation. Why? Because you mean more to me than a picture from one year ago. If I have a male friend that you have never met and me hanging out with them makes you uncomfortable, I will introduce you to them or invite you to hang out with us so you can see you have nothing to worry about. When someone isn’t willing to compromise, they are selfish and your feelings are not their priority.